Tuesday, January 2, 2018

Ask me about year 2017

Happy new year 2018!

As usual, I will complete a "Ask me about year (previous)" post so here it is. Before I start, I revisited my previous posts first just to relive some memories and see how much have changed in the past 6 years.

Year 2012 The year of failure and learning how to overcome it
Year 2013 The year of understanding how much grit goes into chasing dreams
Year 2014 The year of independence and understanding mental health
Year 2015 The year of grief and coming to terms with regrets
Year 2016 The year of change and discovering my purpose in life

This year, I will skip questions that I don't have answers for.

Ask me about year 2017
The year of gratitude and learning about others

1. What did you do in year 2017 that you'd never done before?

On one Friday morning, while queuing for my turn to order my usual breakfast wrap & a cup of hot chocolate from San Francisco I had an impromptu urge to book a return flight ticket to Jakarta. During then, I stayed alone in Malaysia. My family resides in Europe and my boyfriend was working in Jakarta. I traveled a lot and so I had my passport with me at all times. After grabbing my breakfast orders, I went into office and booked the return tickets for departure in the same evening.

Straight after work, I boarded the last plane to Jakarta. No change of clothes, no baggage, nothing, just my passport and I. It cost me RM600 for those flight tickets but it was worth it. I was having a really tough time and couldn't stand being alone that weekend. I needed the mental break, it was good for my soul.

2. Did you keep your new year's resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

4. Did anyone close to you die?

5. What countries did you visit?

I visited Bangkok, Jakarta (many, many, many times in the same year), Japan, Taiwan, Bulgaria, England & Spain.

6. What would you like to have in 2018 that you lacked in 2017?

7. What dates from 2017 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

27 December - dinner at El Nacional, experiencing how locals sit and enjoy their tapas with my family.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

I learned how to say no, to ask for what I want and to confront conflicts in the most proper yet assertive manner.

9. What was your biggest failure?

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

11. What was the best thing you bought?

Spur of the moment return tickets to Jakarta (a normal advance return ticket from Kuala Lumpur to Jakarta costs RM200+/- whereas these tickets cost me RM600+/-) yet it was still the best, just imagine how much I needed it.

12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?

I was highly impressed by an intern named Kenji. 

13. Whose behaviour made you appalled?

14. Where did most of your money go?

Travel! Between my boyfriend and I, we split the costs of our travels and I tend to buy experiences instead of material things as gifts. 

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

Christmas - that time of the year I get to unwind and meet my family. 

16. What song will always remind you of 2017?


17. Compared to this time last year, are you: (a) happier or sadder? (b) thinner of fatter? (c) richer or poorer?

Happier, thinner, richer.

18. What do you wish you'd done more of?


19. What do you wish you'd done less of?


20. How did you spend your Christmas?

With my family in Spain - Madrid & Barcelona. 

21. Did you fall in love in 2017?

Yes, I did again and again since 21st July 2011.

22. What was your favourite TV program?

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year? 

24. What was the best book you read?

25. What was your greatest musical discovery?

26. What did you want and get?

Embarking on e-commerce.

27. What did you want and not get?

28. What was your favourite film of this year?

Wonder Woman. 

29. What one thing made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

The bond I've created with a few individuals.

30. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2016?

31. What kept you sane?

"Who" kept me sane is always more accurate. My family, boyfriend & Ee Lyn.

32. Which celebrity/ public figure did you fancy the most?

33. What political issue stirred you the most?

34. Who did you miss?

My beloved late grandmother.

35. Tell us a valuable lesson you learned in 2016.

I learned that every one of us have our own values, goals and motives. We cannot expect another person to share the same as us. We cannot force them to act in accordance to what we believe is right either. Also, trusting another is a risk we need to take and there is no trust that cannot be broken. All in all, I learned to believe in standing up to our own values and at the same time, take into consideration what makes another comfortable enough to make things work for all parties.

36. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

There can be miracles
When you believe
Though hope is frail
It's hard to kill
Who knows what miracles
You can achieve
When you believe
Somehow you will
You will when you believe

Happy New Year 2018!

Thursday, December 28, 2017

Behind every number is a person & the stories it tells; mine is 24.

On the morning of 21st July, Facebook triggered a memory I posted back in 2014. Back then, I turned 21 and wrote this post on the one lesson I learned.

I read it again just to recall how Amy was back then, it was a good trip down memory lane and it made me realize how time can change someone.

This year, on 21st July I turned 24. What happened in 3 years? A lot, so much that I simply cannot keep count as it just becomes a part of me after every passing day.

Just to recap chronologically, these happened in the past 3 years:

  1. I graduated in Bachelor of Arts (Communication & Writing) with a second class upper 2:1 from Monash University, Melbourne Australia in December 2014
  2. I started my first job with Unilever Malaysia as an Employer Branding Specialist in the Human Resource department in January 2015
  3. My grandmother passed away at the end of January 2015, not making it to the next Chinese New Year
  4. My family relocated to Eastern Europe in August 2015; I stayed on in Malaysia
  5. I moved on in my career to do Brand Marketing for Comfort, a Unilever brand in September 2015
  6. I decided to change my career and joined Shell Malaysia in April 2016
  7. My boyfriend relocated abroad to Western Europe for his career in April 2016; marking the start of a year and a half Long Distance Relationship
  8. I turned 24 in July 2017
Every number in the timeline is a story in itself. 

What triggered me to write this post is, the trigger that made me write what I wrote back on 21st July 2013, as I turned 21. I overcame it yesterday. I forgave the person and moved on. I went and confronted him again, I forgave, I will forget and it's liberating.

That moment, signified how much I have grown since then. It made me realize, 4 years from now. I would have learned new lessons and have different stories to tell.  4 years from now I will look back at today and have the exact same thoughts - I have grown. 

This, is exciting.

As always, I am grateful for the people I have in my life. And as usual, I will mention their names and thank them for being a part of my story:
  • Richard Moh - a mentor in life, he taught me resilience, patience, to be tough and to strive for what matters most
  • Soo Ee Lyn - more than a friend, she taught me what it means to overcome any challenges in life, she inspires me to be better day after day, to do more than I can and she's always there for me
  • David Nge - an inspiration, someone who is so passionate, he taught me to always be neutral, to judge less and understand more
  • Yuet Ting - a lifetime companion, someone who has taught me what it means to be rational, she taught me to be objective despite the toughest of times
  •  Amanda, Tush & Omar - my mentees, they opened my eyes to something new, they have shown me what it means to be a team, they have shown me what it means to be humble, to be hungry to learn and to not be afraid to say "I don't know this, please teach me"
  • Imran, Kavidha, Alex, Carmen, Raymond, Elicia, Gabby, Wan Sin, Bogdan, Albert, Li Shan, Eian, Soo Shin, JH, Peggy, Esther, Laura, Lavania, Alissya, Alia, Wai Yee, Yen Li, Marcus, Xing Yi, Jimmy, Jovian, Jayson, Wen Kiat, Leon, Jien Yue, Stephanie, Adrian, Jo Yi, Kenji, Suang Fu, Kent Kam, Sean, Sze Li, Sue Ching, Mad, Ruel, Jian Xin, Zoe, James - they have all played a part in my life the past 4 years in big ways or small
And also, to the people who inspired me, they taught me who I want to be and who I do not want to be in future. 

To the future Amy, I will say this again just as I have said back then, "This is you right now, you have not learned all that you have to learn. Keep moving forward and may you learn more there is to life in the days to come and more".

Amy Lim (24 years old, 3 August 2017)